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What is the Best Pace for Divorce Mediation? One important benefit of divorce mediation is the parties control the tempo of the process. Usually the divorcing couple can sustain a tempo or time line that works adequately for both of them. Unfortunately, there are occasions when the parties are not in alignment on the pace. This imbalance can carry a huge emotional charge which [...]

Do's and Don'ts When Beginning With Divorce Mediation While every couple going through a divorce presents a different personality profile and every case has different factual and legal issues, there are some “do’s and don’ts” that have helped many couples experience the best possible outcome in terms of fairness and reasonableness through divorce mediation. Here is a list that would be helpful to most [...]

Before Going to a Divorce Mediator As a divorce mediator, I am frequently asked by couples contacting me for the first time, “What do we need to do to prepare for mediation? What do you need from us?” It’s a good question; by asking it most couples are indicating they want the process to move forward as smoothly and efficiently as possible. How [...]

What To Do When You Just Can't Communicate How can we get our divorce through mediation when we absolutely cannot communicate?…I mean we never (ever) want to be in the same room again! I have had some utterly heartbreaking divorce cases over the years. Couples who were once in love are not just ending their marriage; they are utterly demolishing any semblance of the [...]

Feedback We Appreciate Note from John: Couples who are considering a divorce mediator usually want to have some idea of what to expect in how their mediation process will be facilitated. A client whose case is now closed wrote me a letter of appreciation. With their permission, I share this letter with you, because it describes their experience of my mediation services in a [...]

Divorce Mediation and Family Issues Ending a marriage while raising minor children is difficult on every level - emotional, financial, social, familial, physical and, for many, spiritual. Along with the normal emotions associated with a failed relationship and the legal issues which must be sorted out in any divorce, the impact on the children adds almost insurmountable complexity. This article offers perspective on some of [...]